How To Persuade Someone To Change Her Attitude
How To Persuade Someone To Change Her Attitude
Attitudes
often seem very rigid and very unchangeable. It is common belief that
only when a critical life event happens, attitudes change. This is
true for the biggest part. Something shocking can indeed change an
attitude. However, it can change in any direction. Assume you could
cause a critical event to change someones attitude. You would
probably succeed, but that attitude may very well change to become
even more negative than it was before.
If
an attitude is intended to change, it must have a direction, a
purpose that is not self-serving and most importantly the change must
be desired for by the owner of that attitude. So if you want to
change someones attitude, it must be towards a desireable outcome;
desireable to her, not you. Therefore, precision is required.
You
must define a particular topic or issue and then present your
arguments. Be fair and present the cons and the pros of that
attitude. Then present your wish in a short and clear way. For
example: "I want you to check in with me when you are out at
night at least once." Now here comes the part where you must use
your persuasion magic. The other person needs to be convinced of the
fact that it is useful if she checks in with you. In order to be
convincing, you must evoke thoughts in the other person that he
agrees with.
If
you try to tell your teenager to do this to not get kidnapped or
worse at night, it will not be persuaded, simply because a teenager
cannot intake the parental perspective yet. Try thinking from the
teenagers perspective. For instance, she may have a boyfriend. If he
didnt call at night she would be worried or thinking that he ran off
with someone else.
Ask
her: How would you feel if Jonathan went out at night with his
friends and didnt tell you about it?
And
then get to your point: You see, this is why I would like you to
check in with me, I worry like you would with Jonathan.
Not
only have you then evoked agreement, but you have also promoted
understanding both ways. Just remember, that you are not to put up
pressure or use this to manipulate someone. Caution is required here.
Your goal is only to generate an interaction between your thoughts
and her thoughts, mainly by only asking questions to get to your
point. If you try to persuade with the intent of manipulation, you
will most likely destroy the trust that someone has in you.
So
make sure, that you always have good intentions in mind, that you are
selfless when persuading for a good purpose, and that you can only
forward one thought at a time. We are after all not articial
intelligences that can multi-process several messages equally at the
same time.
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