How To Change Thought In Accordance With Behaviour
How
To Change Thought In Accordance With Behaviour
Changing
thought and changing behaviour
as a result of that thought process, is difficult to do. Many people
attend sessions with a psychotherapist to be guided along that path.
For example, your husband may exhibit a behaviour
hazardous to your health, such as drinking a little
too much. The time has now come to change that. But you don’t
know how to promote such a change within him.
There
are five steps to follow:
1.
Get his attention:
Make
sure that you have his full attention even before starting to talk
about the issue. Once you start talking, make sure to hold that
attention in place. If you are loosing that attention, there is no
point in forcing it. Try another time or think about a way to say it
differently. The choice of words can make all the difference.
2.
Generate understanding:
Make
sure that whatever you say is properly understood. Many
word-constellations are highly prone to causing misunderstandings.
Watch your phrazing and be clear in what you say. There is no rush so
take your time. Make sure that your conversation partner is able to
follow you, maybe by asking something back, such as "What do you
think about that?". Your message is to reach him as you intended
it to be, not as he interprets it to be.
3.
Acceptance:
Before
something changes, the reasons for change must be accepted first.
Make sure that the reasons you have given, are not contradicted. If
they are, you must rethink your cause from the start. If he agrees
with you and your presented arguments, and he comes to accept them,
the path is even enough to build a road.
4.
Remember the Motives:
If
you discuss one thing today and tomorrow it is forgotten, you
unfortunately need to start all over again. If it is still
remembered, it means that your words have had some sort
of impact - preferably of course a
positive
one, because negativity pulls it all backwards. Now that the message
is clear even on the next day and therefore on the days to still
come, action can begin. Start practising
a behaviour.
Swap "don’ts"
with "do's
instead". Instead of "Don't drink" make it "drink
juice".
5.
Behaviour:
Our
mind remembers and sticks to everything that we practice a lot. We do
things
often to be able to recall them quicker and better, and to generate
habits. A behaviour
becomes a habit, when it is repeated often. As soon as it becomes a
habit, it's done.
Note:
these do-it-yourself techniques work only to a limited extent. If the
issue is more complex, such as alcoholism, it is strongly recommended
going to a physician or therapist!
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