4 Ways To Generate Self-Confidence
4
Ways To Generate Self-Confidence
To
be able to take action to improve our self-confidence, we need to
understand first what it is and what its purpose is. Self-Confidence
is not just about feeling great, it is so much more than that. It
defines how well we have adjusted to life and life circumstances.
People who struggle to adjust to the demands of life, have a very
variable self-confidence with many low points. Without having a place
in life, a person can basically not define himself and his status
with pride. It makes life much easier in terms of defining one's own
self-worth, if a person can say: "I am a business executive",
"I am a dad" or "I am a teacher". Successful
adjustment to life is basically a positive illusion. It aids our
mental health.
Self-confidence
is also a feedback mechanism. It lets you know, how well you have
integrated yourself with your own being and others. If your
self-confidence increases, it means that you are well-adjusted
socially. A decrease shows social withdrawal a sense of not
belonging.
People
guard their self-confidence like a treasure. It is an infinite
ressource, but it is also drained quickly. Unfortunate events in life
require a large amount of stored self-worth. To generate such a
ressource reliably, there are four ways to improve your
self-confidence:
1.
Self-Serving Attributions:
When
you are successful at something, give credit to yourself. Enjoy that
moment and remember it to be always able to recall it. If things do
not go your way, dont blame failures on yourself. Blaming failures on
the circumstances or on plain life, is a way to shield your
self-confidence. A major predictor of depressive illness is doing the
opposite of this: taking next to no credit for your achievements and
blaming all failures on yourself alone. The burden of this is too
much for any self-confidence to carry. The very least you should do,
is to acknowledge and remind yourself of your successes.
2.
Downward Social Comparisons:
If
you compare yourself to someone who is way more successful, you are
setting yourself up to fail You can strive for similar success, but
the direct comparison is damaging to your health. Self-confidence
requires you to judge yourself based on people with a similar quality
and quantity of successes. Most people do downward social comparisons
to protect their self-esteem. They compare themselves with people of
less success or inferior in some dimension, to show to themselves
that they are better at something. As crude as it sounds, downward
comparison works.
3.
Self-Aid
There
is something called self-handicapping. Basically, it means that you
are standing in your own way when it comes to striving for success.
You set yourself up for failure, for a situation that will bring you
guaranteed failure. In this way, failing does not come as a suprise
any more. This is actually a strategy that protects self-esteem.
However, it is more advantageous to provide aid to yourself, by
appraising situations properly before they start and setting up your
expectations accordingly. Having too high expecations and then
experiencing a failure is a steep fall, experiencing success is not
much of a high any more. Therefore, manage your expectations to fit
the situation according to your experiences and realiable
information.
4.
Self-Affirmation
When
you experience a threat to your self-esteem in one department,
strengthen another. You surely have more talents, characteristics and
expertise than just the one. An example would be: "I may not
make a lot of money, but I am a loving parent". By doing this,
you discharge negativity from something in your life that is not
going very well, while emphasizing the things you do well.
Self-affirmation is highly protective.
We
are not required to do all of the above to have a healthy
self-esteem. Usually, everyone has her own pick of how to manage
self-confidence levels. If you are experiencing some difficulties,
try practicing a way of the ones mentioned. The key component to
mental health is social support. If your glass keeps shattering,
surround yourself more often with people that care for you.
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