How
To Be Lovable and Loved
The
world is not all black and white, so there is no exact recipe on how
your personality has to be in order to be loved. There are however
certain attributes that many people respond to with open arms. Those
attributes can eb summarized in:
1.
Trust
2.
Honesty
3.
Altruism
4.
Forgiveness
5.
Humility
6.
Empathy
The
first attribute refers to being trusting yourself, innocent in your
thought, gullible and confiding. By being trusting you establish a
path for another person to feel closer to you and safer with you.
That path also enables the other person to become trusting towards
you as well. by being trusting you establish a baseline for the
formation of a close relationship. Being innocent in thought is
written all over your face and the survival instinct of a human being
can tell if you are innocent in thought or a risk of scepticism. My
being gullible you show that you dont mistrust and that you dont
doubt or suspect someone, again facilitating the evolvement of a
close relationship. The propinquity rewards you by making others more
courageous in showing them their love.
Being
honest refers to a sincerity stemming from the depth of your heart.
Most people have a sense for when you are being sincere or not. You
may believe that many people dont, but they do It only takes them
longer than you to realize their potential for discovering
dishonesty. Being sincere creates a world of open-heartedness towards
you. Within this world love can grow and extend to an all-powerful
aura. Another person can share your courage for being honest and
therefore feel more courageous herself. You need other people to be
courageous sometimes, so they can show you their feelings. You can
harvest the courage from your sincerity and offer that courage to
them, by being open and full-heartedly sincere.
Altruism
refers to you being selflessly helpful towards others. You help
people without expecting anything in return. You are lavish with your
emotions, generous at all times, supportive and considerate. You
helping others is like offering a hand to love. Being lavish and
generous with your emotions motivates others to share their emotions
with you. Being supportive makes people feel safe with you. Being
considerate makes people feel that you understand them, that you are
on their side and that you are the soul-mate they have been seeking
for long. Especially
within close relationships, being perceived as considerate
establishes a strong communication and protects against arguments and
separation.
Forgiveness
is one of the more difficult to achieve attributes. Being benevolent,
permissive and conciliatory are the basic...
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