How To Be Lovable and Loved [Part 2]
Forgiveness
is one of the more difficult to achieve attributes. Being benevolent,
permissive and conciliatory are the basic characteristics of a person
who is forgiving. Being benevolent is hard to achieve. A good point
to start is to not be addicted to having arguments with someone, to
not always persist on being right and to not be so strict. Try to
diffuse fires, try to see how someone else may be right in certain
things and tell them that they are right, and let a human be a human
sometimes with her faults and flaws. Understanding the way another
person thinks by talking a lot facilitates you being able to give
people a break from time to time. Knowing that whatever is true for
you, is not true for another, but both sides are to be equally
respected, can help you letting go of grudges.
Showing
humility from time to time, being modest and not focused on vanity
will make you more approachable. Vain is pain! By showing humility
you show that you accept yourself with your flaws included and are
therefore not overly judgemental. The other person will become more
available to you, if she sees that you are approachable. She will
also feel that making a mistake is not the end of the world and will
therefore be more apprehensive to you. We all strive for belonging
and being accepted by others. By acknowledging your humility you show
that not only you accept yourself, but others as well. Nobody has to
be perfect around you and everyone can be just who they are with you.
You basically voice that you can love another person for who they
truly are, just as much as you love yourself for who you are.
Empathy
refers to being indulgent, compassionate, understanding and
insightful. By being empathetic you make it possible for other people
to be open towards you. If you hear someone complain about you not
being understanding or insightful, what she means is that she wants
you to be more understanding so that she can finally open up towards
you. To be empathetic you have to listen to what another person has
to say. You have to take it all in and think about it. Try seeing the
world from the other persons perspective, She is seeing a much
different world than you are. Once you have heard what she had to say
and seen the world with her eyes, you are insightful and
understanding. Only then you can react indulgently and offer true
compassion. This allows love to grow strong and to be unbreakable.
To
sum up, to be loveable you must be compatible and have a warm heart.
In order to be just that, you will need to show trust, honesty,
altruism, forgiveness, humility and empathy. People know when you are
authentic in your feelings and in what you show. We are all equipped
with the basic instincts for the purpose of recognizing these
attributes.
Be
aware to what kind of a person you try to be loveable towards. These
attributes are unfortunately open to manipulation, so choose "your
person" wisely. Trust your feelings, they will tell you
immediately if you have chosen wisely. You yourself are equipped with
that instinct. But dont be afraid. This will only hinder you from
finding love in your life. We all need to be loved and we are all
loved by someone.
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