What stops someone from loving me? [Part 2]
Having
a cold heart is actually more like throwing oil into a fire. It burns
and it smells burnt. For every time someone opens up towards you and
you react with a cold heart, you burn them. The smell forces them to
turn away from you. If one has been burnt too often, he will be
cautious towards you; too cautious for love to be able to breathe. In
that smoke of the burnt hearts love suffricates and this is painful.
Being
introverted and aloof are two more characteristics that are true
enemies of love. Being in your own little world, with your own sets
of rules and your own experiences, hinder new experiences from being
generated. A love without experiences becomes repetitive, until it is
forced to live on happy memories alone. Memories fade over time,
their strength becomess less powerful and therefore so does love. An
loof layout of your persona contributes to this by making another
person believe, that you are not taking the fading away of love
seriously. This leads to anger, contempt, resentment and other such
negative feelings. These overshadow love until none of the happy
variety is left.
Finally,
being completely submissive and insecure are to more enemies of love.
Being submmissive and insecure at all times, makes you have less of
an appearence within the relationship. You as a person becomes
invisible. And what becomes invisible cannot be respected. You need
your existance to be acknowledged from time to time. It is important
that you are courageous sometimes, that you make hard decisions,
solve problems via your own power, share your world with your
partner, have your opinions and be willing to tell them.
These
characteristics are not written in stone. We are born with a certain
personality, but we can make alterations for a happier life. Those
alterations we make depend on our motivation and will-power alone.
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